A lot of people advocate for the power of wishing. Some call it law-of-attraction, some call it affirmations, some call it goal-setting, some call it prayer — essentially though, we have an imagined outcome that we want to come true, and for that to happen, components both internal and external must align.
The fundamental issue with wishing though, is where does the underlying inspiration come from? Our desires come from somewhere beyond our everyday inner-dialog. In other words, we seem to have no say in the matter, we suddenly want something and fantasize about it coming to fruition.
Therefore, I think the process of wishing is simply preparing us to receive what we were already destined to get. It’s a way of avoiding imposter-syndrome, feeling like we don’t belong or deserve what we eventually attain. If I wish for something wholeheartedly and finally get it, then I’m appreciative and satisfied. Whereas if something wonderful just landed in my lap, I’d be a bit confused and feel undeserving. In other words we need a little romance, some build-up before the big present is presented.
There’s clearly a narrative going on here and we have no idea how to improve it — how could we? Actual working wishes would only screw up the synchronization. But daydreaming isn’t a waste, it’s a means to generate delightful anticipation, a great feeling to have. So we can keep on wishing, we just mustn’t fret over the outcome. Our role is to experience the story unfolding.