We often test whether we’re alone in the world. For instance, a child regularly polls for physical presence and affection. And I know someone who regularly behaves in a prickly manner as if to test whether those that surround stick close despite the thorns. As for myself, I often say things while analyzing whether I was truly understood.
I suppose that’s one reason I publicly post my thoughts, so that I can in some way discern whether I’m alone. “Here’s what’s in my mind, does anyone understand me?”, I seem to be saying. But I think understanding is an odd metric since we rarely even understand ourselves — how can we expect others to do so?
We must remember that relationships are bonds formed within our minds. We’re as alone as we perceive ourselves to be. We can feel alone in a crowded room just as we can feel connected while physically isolated. Testing for loneliness is a faulty practice, as it’s our attitude that actually determines the answer.
If we ever ask the question, “Am I lonely?” we should always answer with a confident “No”, then connect the dots in a way that says we’re not. Loneliness is an unpleasant conclusion, one we should never seek to reach. Creativity can be used to paint a picture of warmth and companionship — simply dip the brush to begin.