Particular people or circumstances don’t cause dissatisfaction, life itself is the root of dissatisfaction. Focusing on something in particular only prohibits our realization that dissatisfaction is inherent to existence.
If we get rid of a particular person or circumstance, another takes its place, the dissatisfaction will persist. Therefore, our focus must be directed towards removing dissatisfaction from life itself, not on the particulars. The particulars are merely life’s attempt to draw us in, ensnaring our attention.